Should You See an LGBTQ-Affirming Therapist?
People often say that being gay isn’t a big deal anymore, especially for those living in large cities and metropolitan areas like New York City.
While many things have improved from a legal and societal standpoint, Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, and Queer/Questioning (LGBTQ) people still face significant stigma, bias, harassment, and discrimination because of their sexuality and gender identity, even in major cities. And these experiences harm our mental health.
The struggles that LGBTQ people face are unique, and for this reason, LGBT individuals need (and deserve!) affirming therapy to work through their distinctive challenges. These challenges, often overlooked, are deeply personal and can have a profound impact on mental health.
The American Psychiatric Association reports that LGBT individuals are 2.5 times more likely to struggle with depression, anxiety, and substance abuse issues compared with heterosexuals.
Children and Youth
A recent study by Vanderbilt University found that 83% of LGBQ individuals reported traumatic childhood experiences, such as sexual and emotional abuse, and they suffer from worse mental health as adults when compared to their heterosexual peers.
Vanderbilt researchers note that children who experience maltreatment and other adversities often grow up to be adults who struggle with more significant challenges with physical and mental health and economic well-being.
LGBTQ youth are especially at risk. The Trevor Project’s annual survey indicates that 67% of LGBTQ youth reported experiencing symptoms of anxiety, and 54% reported symptoms of depression.
Additionally, LGBTQ youth are often perceived as different by their peers and, as a result, are more likely to be teased or bullied.
Work
The Williams Foundation reports that nearly half of LGBT workers have experienced workplace bias at some point in their careers, and almost a third have experienced unfair treatment within the last five years. Close to two-thirds have heard homophobic comments, jokes, or slurs in the workplace.
Other Ongoing Challenges
Hate crimes are still a reality, even in big, progressive cities, and strangers still accost gay people for doing something as harmless as holding hands in public.
Also, gay people are more likely to have experienced religious persecution.
Investing in a Path Forward
For LGBTQ people, having an accepting and nonjudgmental therapist who understands their struggles and creates a safe space to explore their challenges can have a tremendous impact on their therapy.
Research suggests that LGBTQ-affirming therapy can improve mental health outcomes for LGBTQ individuals. The American Psychiatric Association reports that ”many LGBTQ people have reported experiencing stigma and discrimination when accessing health services, leading some individuals to delay necessary health care or forego it altogether.”
Thus, it is critical that members of the gay community find an affirming therapist they can trust and who can ensure that they feel safe and supported in therapy.
LGBTQ-affirming therapy is not just about addressing the negative impacts of societal challenges. It's about promoting well-being and resilience. It's about empowering individuals to navigate their unique journeys with strength and confidence. This empowerment is a key aspect of LGBTQ-affirming therapy, instilling hope and inspiration in those who seek it.
An affirming therapist can assist with a range of issues and concerns, including:
self-acceptance
coming out (including later in life, to family, at work, to new friends)
navigating relationship and family dynamics
religion and spirituality
stigma and living out loud
shame
perfectionism
surviving a breakup
combatting loneliness
body dissatisfaction/body dysmorphia
structuring and navigating ethical (consensual) non-monogamy and polyamory
relocating to a new city
family planning
transition support
Another important aspect of LGBTQ-affirming therapy is its consideration of intersectionality. This refers to the intersection of being LGBT with other identities, such as race, ethnicity, religion, and socioeconomic status. An affirming therapist will understand and address these intersections, ensuring that all aspects of an individual's identity are respected and considered in therapy.
When you are struggling with life’s challenges, you shouldn’t have to worry about whether your therapist understands and accepts you on the most basic level.
LGBTQ-affirming therapy is not just for LGBTQ individuals. It's a safe and supportive space for everyone to discuss all issues – including gender, sexuality, and relationships – in a very open way and an atmosphere of understanding, empathy, and compassion. It's a place where everyone's story is heard and respected, ensuring that all individuals feel welcomed and accepted.
Parents of members of the LGBTQ community also need a safe space to discuss concerns about their children.
Chris Haley Therapy
If you live in New York State and are looking for an LGBTQ-affirming therapist, I invite you to contact me for a no-obligation consultation. I am unequivocally LGBT-affirming, and I strive to create a warm, safe, and supportive environment to discuss anything causing you distress. You can always bring your whole self to therapy with me.